All great advice! You have some of the best content on Substack and I really appreciate it. However, with all that being said, may I give you some feedback?
I think it's great that you spoke up with the intent to help the woman that wrote that note. Unfortunately I'm picking up from this story that perhaps your message wasn't received positively for a few reasons. Your sentence was short. There was no context of why you were making your statement. The word "begging" has a negative connotation to it, so it doesn't surprise me that it didn't land well. I wonder if she really understood the message you were trying to share or the intent behind your message due to its brevity and word choice. It probably was hard for her to interpret if you were helping or just someone being negative for the "fun" of it hence her response of saying you were "one of those people".
I would suggest that if you were to take the time out again to give feedback, that you include a bit of context and your intent to help. Perhaps you could have said "I noticed your use of the word please in this message. Consider removing it in the future, and instead, use language to demonstrate your confidence in the value of what you provide as that will bring you more subscribers. I've learned this myself so I hope that helps!"
Again I think this post was great, but that story did stand out to me. Consider giving more context next time so that it's not interpreted the wrong way. Giving feedback is always tricky and with us all being strangers on the internet, it may require us taking more time to convey it if we truly want to be viewed as helpful. And with that being said, thanks for reading my feedback!
I did give more context before I got blocked, I just didn't add it here because it would be too long. The person got the message and I'm sure I helped, because I caused a strong emotion. And the fact that it's negative is even better. I know this may sound controversial or counterproductive, but it's actually how our brains work so my message was received.
You want some advice in return? I'd replace the word "however" with "and", because of when you tell someone "Hey, you're awesome, however..." is completely different from "Hey, you're awesome, and..." ;)
All great advice! You have some of the best content on Substack and I really appreciate it. However, with all that being said, may I give you some feedback?
I think it's great that you spoke up with the intent to help the woman that wrote that note. Unfortunately I'm picking up from this story that perhaps your message wasn't received positively for a few reasons. Your sentence was short. There was no context of why you were making your statement. The word "begging" has a negative connotation to it, so it doesn't surprise me that it didn't land well. I wonder if she really understood the message you were trying to share or the intent behind your message due to its brevity and word choice. It probably was hard for her to interpret if you were helping or just someone being negative for the "fun" of it hence her response of saying you were "one of those people".
I would suggest that if you were to take the time out again to give feedback, that you include a bit of context and your intent to help. Perhaps you could have said "I noticed your use of the word please in this message. Consider removing it in the future, and instead, use language to demonstrate your confidence in the value of what you provide as that will bring you more subscribers. I've learned this myself so I hope that helps!"
Again I think this post was great, but that story did stand out to me. Consider giving more context next time so that it's not interpreted the wrong way. Giving feedback is always tricky and with us all being strangers on the internet, it may require us taking more time to convey it if we truly want to be viewed as helpful. And with that being said, thanks for reading my feedback!
Thanks, Rachel! I fully agree with you.
I did give more context before I got blocked, I just didn't add it here because it would be too long. The person got the message and I'm sure I helped, because I caused a strong emotion. And the fact that it's negative is even better. I know this may sound controversial or counterproductive, but it's actually how our brains work so my message was received.
You want some advice in return? I'd replace the word "however" with "and", because of when you tell someone "Hey, you're awesome, however..." is completely different from "Hey, you're awesome, and..." ;)